This past summer we flew to California to do what we couldn’t do here in Michigan. While some in our circle felt is was unnecessary, we decided to do it anyway. We got married, LEGALLY.
A lot of our family and friends view our commitment ceremony back in 2001 as our wedding, and indeed, that was a defining moment for us as a couple. However, it wasn’t legal. Oh sure, we can wax poetic about how marriage is just in your heart and if you want it to be then it is bullshit. But the fact of the matter is marriage has gone from a societal issue to a governmental issue. Many in the LGBT community are upset that all this time and attention is being tossed at Gay Marriage. They feel that there are bigger fish to fry (see the link at the top of this article).
But we have a child together, we have a home together, we have a family together, and we hope that the California Supreme Court will stand by our right to maintain all those together as a legally married couple.
Time will tell. Three hours of hearings today, and then they have 90 days to rule.