Monday, April 15, 2013

Pushed out?

From the ever-informative Joe My God ( comes this tidbit from a book review by Dan Savage. I have read much about Chu’s book, and have put it on my summer reading list. However, Dan sums up my thoughts about religion in his review perfectly:
"My father was a Catholic deacon, my mother was a lay minister and I thought about becoming a priest. I was in church every Sunday for the first 15 years of my life. Now I spend my Sundays on my bike, on my snowboard or on my husband. I haven’t spent my post-Catholic decades in a sulk, wishing the church would come around on the issue of homosexuality so that I could start attending Mass again. I didn’t abandon my faith. I saw through it. The conflict between my faith and my sexuality set that process in motion, but the conclusions I reached at the end of that process — there are no gods, religion is man-made, faith can be a force for good or evil — improved my life. I’m grateful that my sexuality prompted me to think critically about faith.
Pushed out? No. I walked out."
Dan Savage, from his New York Times book review of Jeff Chu's Does Jesus Really Love Me?


  1. Interesting article by Savage. I found that after being Outed at a time when so much was at stake, it doesn't matter what you say or think or do..hell is your future. And when you are raised in a heavy religion are required to think it through.. And I agree with Savage, in that I walked away and found my own path.

  2. Saying good bye I'm leaving is so much more empowering than being told to leave, yes.

  3. I stopped actively going to church by the age of 11 or 12. I realized what it was at the time and had a good laugh about it.

    You know how they pass the collection plate - and they have the nerve to pack kids off with budget envelopes so mommy and daddy can chip 10% or more to the church. Yeah, right.

    They did confirm my ass when I was about 15 years old though. That was despite telling the priest in the final interview that I didn't believe in any of it.

    Plus it didn't hurt that the first twelve years of my education were in Catholic schools. If anything it made me a better atheist. Especially the high school years - one year we studied the Bible. I mean REALLY studied it. Luckily I went through those schools between the time the Vatican II reforms were really taking place to the time they started to wane in the early 1980's.